Why wanting to be ’normal’ is bad for you
“I just want to be… normal.”
This is the answer many of my clients give me when I ask then why they have come for hypnotherapy.
When I hear this answer, something inside me silently weeps and my heart takes an invisible nose-dive and sinks into sorrow.
But then, I quickly remember that I can help them to see how bad for them this statement is.
My second question that follows this is “What exactly do you mean by ‘normal’?”
“You know, the same as every one else, just normal, fit in… Um…Ordinary.”
I look at them and ask, “Just to clarify what you want, are you asking for me to help you have an ordinary and uneventful life?
Luckily for you, Solution Focused Hypnotherapy helps you realise how extraordinary you are and together we are going to rediscover the unique and special qualities of yourself that need to be seen and celebrated.
That is the journey we are going to go on, so are you ready for that?”
Very quickly at that moment, the client has to make a decision. To stay, or to leave.
They always stay.
5 reasons why wanting to be ’normal’ is bad for you
1) Wanting to ‘fit in’ and not stand out is a fear based need
When we were primitive people, back in the caveman/cavewoman days, it was much better for our safety and survival to be part of a tribe than an individual.
2) Wanting to be ‘like everyone else’ means you are not happy with who ‘you’ are
What does ‘like everyone else’ actually mean? Who are these perfect ‘everyone else’ people? What is the definition of ‘normal?’ Normal is a subjective experience.
This is the answer to happiness. Learn to be happy being you, and then everything around you begins to change for the better.
3) Wanting to not attract attention and contribute to life shows a lack of self esteem
Self esteem is different to self confidence. Self esteem is a deeper respect and higher regard of who you are – your true self.
4) Wanting to be ‘accepted’ and worrying if you are not, means you may be putting others needs before your own
Do you think putting yourself first is selfish?
5) Wanting to be ‘ordinary’ means your greatness is undiscovered – and that is a serious problem
I help everyone that comes to see me realise that they have great resources, capabilities and skills within them. I do this by activating the trance state.
The trance state is a very powerful state of mind. While the brain is in the trance state, it is working hard in the background – harder than if you were doing a maths exam.The brain in a trance state, is accessing solutions and positive resources and capabilities to bring forward to the conscious mind for actioning.